Melancholy Phlegmatic Profile

I can thank Tim LaHaye for my interest in the four temperaments. This type of personality assessment is mostly popular among Christians–especially Catholics. Anyway, my personality type is Melancholy-Phlegmatic; melancholia is my dominant feature followed by the phlegmatic traits. More thoroughly, I am really a Melancholy-Phlegmatic-Choleric, but it’s more difficult to find more details on 3-blends rather than 2-blends. I located a substantial amount of information on a Christian counseling website:

General description of people who are Melancholy Phlegmatic  in Inclusion:

  1. Introvert — on the surface, he/she has a better ability to socialize than most introverts and needs more socialization than most introverts
  2. Does not initiate social interaction, but responds to a moderate degree when others initiate social interaction.
  3. Surface relationships are few and far between.
  4. Task-oriented — relates better to tasks and systems and has little understanding of people.
  5. Slow-paced — prefers working at a slow, steady pace and loses momentum as the day progresses.
  6. Needs alone time every day to think, dream and recharge his low energy reserves.
  7. Strong-minded — once his/her mind is made up, he/she has a hard time changing it.
  8. Self-motivated — will make changes or move from the present state only when his/her mind commands

Melancholy Phlegmatic  in Inclusion:
Potential strengths which should be encouraged, used and developed:

  1. “Rolls with the punches” — can deal with rejection and acceptance equally well
  2. Good mind for seeing both the end result and the pitfalls of a project which he/she has undertaken

Melancholy Phlegmatic  in Inclusion:
Potential weaknesses which should be considered and dealt with:

  1. Has a low energy reserve and tires easily
  2. Low self-esteem — constantly searches the environment to confirm this low self perception
  3. Possesses a “dry” (sarcastic) sense of humor that can be irritating to others
  4. Moody — mood swings follow thinking process

General description of people who are Melancholy Phlegmatic in Control:

  1. Independent.
  2. Expresses very little or no control over the lives and behaviors of others and will tolerate very little control imposed upon him/her by others.
  3. Will become angry if someone interferes with his independence, tries to control him/her or tell him/her what to do.
  4. Has moderate doubts about his/her ability to approach unfamiliar areas of responsibility.
  5. “Dry” sense of humor (sometimes witty, often sarcastic) is used as a defense mechanism.
  6. Requires ample time before making a decision in unknown areas.
  7. Moderate fear of the unknown (not as great as a Melancholy).

Melancholy Phlegmatic in Control:
Potential strengths which should be encouraged, used and developed:

  1. In known areas of responsibility, tends to be quite confident and capable of making decisions and taking on responsibilities.
  2. Inner directed, self-motivated.

Melancholy Phlegmatic in Control:
Potential weaknesses which should be considered and dealt with:

  1. Tends to procrastinate because of lack of confidence — procrastination is ventilated in the form of stubbornness.
  2. Becomes stubborn if someone attempts to motivate him/her by promise of reward or threat of punishment.
  3. Moderate fear of being socially exposed for being incompetent and out of control of his/her circumstances.
  4. Will become angry if made to look foolish, confronted for mistakes, or made to look like a failure — anger is ventilated by “dry” humor, sarcastic remarks
  5. Under certain circumstances, can be legalistic, rigid, stubborn and uncompromising.

General description of people who are Melancholy Phlegmatic in Affection:

  1. Expresses and wants only a moderate amount of love and affection
  2. He/she is emotionally guarded, rarely showing or saying how he/she feels — needs to learn how to show deep, tender feelings in ways others can understand
  3. The people with whom he/she chooses to have a deep relationship must make him/her feel “safe” and meet criteria which are in his/her mind
  4. Hides personal feelings behind a “dry” (sometimes witty and often sarcastic) sense of humor

Potential strengths which should be encouraged, used and developed:

  1. Faithful and loyal friend if treated properly

Potential weaknesses which should be considered and dealt with:

  1. If rejected, insulted or offended by a deep personal relationship, he/she uses his/her “dry” and “biting” sense of humor to take vengeance.
  2. Tends to be an observer of deep relationships and uses “dry” humor to avoid becoming too involved — this is a defense mechanism to protect his/her low energy level
  3. Resists affection from others because he/she has very little energy and it takes “too much” energy to respond.

Melancholy Phlegmatic In Inclusion

Affection: Melancholy Phlegmatic

Control: Melancholy Phlegmatic

I am a Melancholic-Phlegmatic

The melancholic-phlegmatic is tidier, more procedural and less flexible than the phlegmatic-melancholic. He may be slower to take on new projects, as the melancholic fear of new situations and tendency to perfectionism takes over. The double-dose of introversion, along with the melancholic tendency to negativity, makes it difficult for him to give compliments and make upbeat small talk. It also causes him to instinctively say “no” when he first hears a request. Others may perceive this as “snobbishness.” Unless the melancholic-phlegmatic is very comfortable, and is surrounded by understanding long-time friends, he may find himself somewhat isolated and alone, unable to warm up in a social gathering. He is less critical and less grudge-bearing than a pure melancholic or a melancholic-choleric. However, the tendency of the melancholic to dwell on things for a long time in their mind, combined with the sensitivity of the phlegmatic toward interpersonal relationships, can result in long-lasting hurts, an erosion of self-confidence and self-esteem, and even depression. Extremely sensitive and possessing a longing for the ideal (melancholic), they are also highly attentive to what others need or desire, through their phlegmatic aspect. This makes them more than usually susceptible to anxiety and a negative self-image

This temperament combination is highly driven to succeed—not for success’ sake alone, but because their melancholic nature is drawn to high ideals, and their phlegmatic side will have a strong desire to please. Thus, they are capable of long-range planning, organization, and attention to detail that makes them excellent and conscientious scholars. They are capable of pursuing highly idealistic goals, usually with long-term academic requirements, such as attaining their doctorate. They value their friendships, but can spend many hours alone reading or studying. They may have a tendency to hypochondria or to genuine physical weaknesses, as well as a tendency to timidity and anxiety, especially about new activities or ventures.

One melancholic-phlegmatic we know is highly organized, critical, slow, and dogmatically unforgiving, yet reveals her phlegmatic aspect in her intense discomfort with confrontation (unless she is very at ease among the warring members) and in her strong relationships with her friends. You wouldn’t guess that she is so devoted to her friends, however, because true to her melancholic nature she rarely initiates contact with them – they always have to call her first. A tendency to avoid the stresses of social interaction by spending overmuch time alone—whether in scholarly pursuits or reading for relaxation—is something that melancholic-phlegmatics need to watch out for.

If your temperament is melancholic-phlegmatic, for a better understanding of your temperament it is recommended that you read the full descriptions of the melancholic and phlegmatic.

Source: The Melancholic / Phlegmatic